Not a man I am a number (leigh)

A quick overview. a crude but simplyfied version of my CSA and history.

Ex slept with a mate 10yrs ago while I was asleep!

We split up.

She turned out pregnant!

I had what I think now to be a nervous breakdown at 21 yrs old, I went missing for days just walking etc. The world had gone mental not knowing who's the baby was and knowing me and my ex were over.

I was telephoned to say she had gone into labour and I should go or I'll never see the baby if it was mine by her mother.

The baby turned out to be my daughter, (absolute image of me and is more now she's 9)

I have daughter 2 nights a week and sat night - sun night. Ex messes around here and there changing/cancelling days I can have her just to have control.

Stopped from seeing my daughter when she was about 6mnths old for no apparent reason (my ex is very pontanious like that). Never spoke to her since as theres no point/sense arguing with her.

Same time I started getting hammered 33% of wage by CSA in 1999, £260 approx at this time. I'd never heard of CSA so this was shocking on top of everything else.

My mum gains contact with my daughter shortly after and I see my daughter in secret while she's at my mums house half a day each week.

A year or so later my ex gave my daughter up to her mother as she is too busy partying (this we later found out). At same time my ex finds out I was seeing her and stops my mum seeing my daughter. Guess why!

My mum approaches my ex's mum when found this out and gained contact again. Words were said at this time from everyone but my mum who just wanted contact again kept her cool to get contact rather than blow everything up and then have expense of court and a full on war.

I see my daughter about once a month at this time as now I'm being pushed further down the line and my mums walking on eggshells. I'm against my ex and her mother as my daughter should be with me but they cover all my efforts up to out this truth with CSA and the social.

My daughter is about 6 by this time and still with her nan while my ex parties even harder. I hear many stories of my ex but loose interest in her actions knowing my daughter is not with her and I'd gave up trying to proove where my daughter is. My CSA has gone up and up and up in all this time. Every other week I ring them and ask where my daughter is and what are the fools doing to ensure my daughters wellfare. They don't even know where she is and I'm still paying to my ex's name when my daughter is at her nans. The CSA still do nothing. £430 per month approx to CSA per month. Its still the same situation now!!

I openly admit I left my job at this time to start another where CSA can whistle. Not because I wouldnt pay for my daughters upkeep, it was purely because they were causing as much stress and using my daughter as a weopon against me as my ex was and pocketing my wages while I struggled to keep a roof over my head, on top of the situation over my daughter and their obvious only intrest in money in their pocket. I turned my back on CSA for about 9 months. This unpaid money just ended up on my arrears when they found me. I began to pay again but 6 months after this I got finished from my job because of shortage of work. I decide its pointless arguing with the CSA as it is my ex, as it just got me in debt so I tell CSA where my new job is from now on again.

I have a few short contract jobs at this time and tell CSA every time to assess and take it from my wages because then I don't have to mess about every month. However it ends up each time I change job I end up with more arrears because the CSA take ages to sort my assessments and then backdate every time. Taken from my wages causes more delays to set it up I later find out. More damn arrears!

I continue to scrape times to see my daughter on the sly at my mums all this time by "just so happened to pop round when she was there" tactics for my ex and her mother. My ex's mum tries to turn my mum against me for running my responsibilities by not paying CSA. My mum agreed with what I did after I found what the CSA really does for my daughter (NOTHiNG!!) and how it is just robbery in my daughters name. But she kept herself neutral so we could both still see my daughter.

I finally end up in a settled job where I've been ever since (last 6yrs). I've paid CSA every month straight from my wages including arrears payments every month arranged at home visit added to total paid each month.

As I get this job I demand I have a home CSA visit to hurry my assesment up to stop more arrears/sort arrears payments/sort deo and yet again state where my daughter actually is to no avail. My mum is present at this and we cannot believe that the CSA arn't interested in anything but money and they are corrupt as they don't care about my daughter 1 bit. We tell home visitor so!!

I begin to pay my CSA dues in this job and my life settles a bit now and I start trying to build my life again now and meet my girlfriend I have now. she has a son with adhd from a past relationship. he is basically my stepson now. We're not married as we can't afford to because of CSA.

This went on until the beginning of 08 when my daughter is now 9.

From nowhere in feb 08 get a letter from CSA saying that CSA are starting to take 40% of my wages (£544) because I have arrears.

I say I'm paying my dues already and not missed a payment in about 7yrs but they say its our new idea to make CSA look like they're being tough.

I then get a letter after paying 40% straight from my wages for 3 months I get another letter saying either pay arrears in full now or face bailliffs.

The very next day I find my ex has been evicted due to partying and not paying her rent.

This means she is back with my daughter at her mothers. This all angers me due to the whole previous situation.

I write to my M.P. saying I've been paying and about my ex and ask for help.

The CSA finally tell me that their new steer is to reclaim all arrears within 2yrs and my 40% would take 3yrs so they're taking actions. Regardless of payments not missed for 7yrs or not.

After a whole load of struggling to make ends meet and arguing my M.P I managed to get them to negotiate.

They made me pay £600 on a credit card and I've got to pay 40% £544 per month for 2yrs 3months.

Current day (6 months later)

I'm struggling to make ends meet and my ex is back around my daughter. Social say my daughters in a safe home and they've got away with all the lies yet again.

I have always got xmas/birthdays etc on top of my CSA but this year I can't get anything thanks to the CSA!!

As much as I hate to admit it, I've given up on the whole thing now and rarely see my daughter as I cant cope with it all anymore. My mum still sees her weekly

The CSA and my ex are ruining my relationship with my daughter!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Next rollercoaster CMEC!! bring it on Nazi's!!!

I love my daughter to bits but I'm being forced to concentrate on fighting a crazy war because of utter corruption from all sides!!

As my daughter is supposed to be with my ex, when she was evicted so was my daughter. WALKiNG THE STREETS!!!. DO THE CSA CARE. NO!!! lucky I know she's warm and safe not where I'd like her to be but safe and looked after at least!!

In nearly 10 years now I have paid the CSA £23000 but do have £4000 arrears that I'm now made to eat less to pay off. Not bad really to have kept up have I???!!!

Paid £23000 for what. It certainly doesn't go to my daughter and now I cant even get a decent present at xmas.

It certainly isnt £23000 for any kind of service to ensure my daughters wellfare. The situation explains that.

It is £23000 Of robbery in my daughters name and supporting my corrupt ex. WHAT A GREAT TEAM THEY MAKE!!!!

DISGUSTING ABUSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!